Navigating the needs

We had so much fun at the aquarium last week. We’re so spoiled and have an amazing one locally that’s incredible for the kids–and any chance for a 45 minute trip, drive through espresso en route and quiet time (forced naps) along the way is good with me! The kids were super excited (dare I say PUMPED) about the penguins, sharks and the “fishies” (Kate especially..). I personally love the jellies, I could spend my entire time in that exhibit! And the sea turtle! Oh!–he’s lovely.

I’ve noticed that the kids have been a bit needier as of late. I think our initial weeks with Emma were pretty seamless, everyone adjusted pretty dang well actually! And now, as things have settled, both Luke and Kate have expressed their need for more mom or dad time. Luke shows it in his times away from me and clinging a bit right before we have to say goodbye. Kate has shown it in that she’s wanted to be held for about a week straight now 🙂 And then they both just flat out always miss dad when he’s at school or work. So I’m in this process of learning how to fill their love tank but still be aware that there are challenges that they can conquer without me (for Luke, being able to go for a morning or two of preschool each week).

Everyone’s perspective differs so much, but I hope to give my kids as much security as I can in these moments, or at least err on it. There are some moments where they can totally muscle through and do hard things, and then again there are moments where I want to give them the freedom of being only THREE or ONE (really.. they are babes.) and being needy. I look back on moments of great need as a kid and I’m so grateful my mom figured out how to let me find comfort with her. I’ll never forget getting to sleep in her bed after a nightmare and how special and safe that felt.. I knew she was less than thrilled about it (I kicked like a madwoman.. I’ve seen Luke sleep and get a pretty good picture!) but when she did give in, there was no cozier, safer place in my little kid mind.

All that to say, everyone’s love tanks got filled up on this one and for that, I’m so glad. Love my little people.

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